If these two intrinsic characteristics were discounted in your original statement, then nearly all of them should be discounted. Strength refers to both physical and mental capabilities and privileges, as does athleticism and the ability to gain favor with your peers. Verbal skills and having the ability to detach one's self is a mental capacity. Money and good style are based, as a child, on your means growing up, and whatever privilege, or lack thereof, you have as an adult.

: Again "the lifestyle you wish to pursue". Traits inside the box
: make that pursuit possible, and more likely to end in success.

Yes, because those people who have the ability and desire to possess such traits and only attach value to these "ideal traits" make life more difficult for those with traits outside of the norm and standards they've created.

: Yes, so I should embrace all those traits outside the box, which clash with
: even YOUR view of a happy healthy human being?

Who's response are you actually replying to? Not once did I ever express that backing down; being short, poor, like a girl, controlled by girls, a snitch, awkward, or easily upset; possessing bad style, trying to hard, or having disabilities were indications of someone less than a happy healthy human being.