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Perhaps these traits should be something EVERYONE aspires to then?
: Strong and Tall takes into account a man's belief that he must be the
: strongest, opposed to weak and minuscule which they would attribute to a
: woman.
I'm not sure men think women are weak, simply weaker. I think the difference is pretty important.
: Girls like him is pure
: and simple heteronormativity, the belief that heterosexuality is the norm
: and all other sexual orientations are set apart and made secondary.
I know a lot of gay men, and let me tell you, women DO love them :-p
: These traits are just as harmful to the boys who zealously adhere to them
: into their adulthood as they are to those boys who have no desire or
: capability, and to the girls which these boys try their damndest to
: separate themselves from.
Again, I am not sure any of these are harmful. Anybody who adopts them is going to be a more complete happy human being.
: As someone who was raised as a boy for much of their childhood (well they
: tried), I know full well how dangerous these traits can be to a young
: person. I've always been a very feminine person, and despite being a bit
: of a tomboy, my personality never attempted to latch onto the traits in
: this box. Because of that, I typically found myself on the sides of that
: slide. I was very hesitant to do anything or seek confrontation (Backs
: Down), I was super awkward, and easily upset. Oh, yeah, and totally like a
: girl. Can't forget that one.
: Anyhoo, my dad tried his hardest to inspire me to be a guy like him and his
: efforts never caught on. I knew from an early age that being a feminine
: boy was something that dearly set me apart from my male peers. At this
: time I hadn't realized that I was really a girl or that transgender was
: even a thing, so fitting into being "just another guy" was
: something I tried to do simply so I'd stop receiving so much unwanted
: angst and criticism. Even though I tried, it never worked because they
: kept seeing me as weak or "like a girl." My parents and little
: brother eventually stopped bothering trying to make me into a typical boy
: and just let me be whoever I was because they knew it would never happen.
The problem we have is simply the fact that so many feminine traits are in fact undesirable, yet we expect women to conform to them. If we simply expect both men and women to adopt the healthiest traits, while still allowing for differences between the sexes, everybody would be a lot happier and healthier.
For instance being confident and decisive are masculine traits, while being demure is a feminine one. We should be encouraging both men and women to be decisive and confident, and nobody to be demure. Instead of embracing demure women, we should reject them, similar to how we reject demure men. In this sense, a demure man isn't failing to live up to his gender expectation, he is failing to live up to his expectation as a human being.
Gender expectations | Cody Miller | 3/20/14 4:22 am |
Nail. Head. *NM* | The Loot | 3/20/14 4:37 am |
Re: Gender expectations | Kal | 3/20/14 10:24 am |
Re: Gender expectations | Xenos | 3/20/14 11:41 am |
Re: Gender expectations | Kal | 3/20/14 11:55 am |
Re: Gender expectations | Xenos | 3/20/14 2:00 pm |
+1 | Arithmomaniac | 3/20/14 12:09 pm |
Re: Gender expectations | Grizzlei | 3/20/14 2:38 pm |
Re: Gender expectations | Cody Miller | 3/20/14 5:30 pm |
Response: Now with 1x more *GIF* | Grizzlei | 3/20/14 6:24 pm |
That last paragraph | ZackDark | 3/20/14 6:53 pm |
Re: That last paragraph | Grizzlei | 3/20/14 7:01 pm |
Re: That last paragraph | ZackDark | 3/20/14 10:18 pm |
Re: Response: Now with 1x more *GIF* | Cody Miller | 3/20/14 8:21 pm |
Re: Response: Now with 1x more *GIF* | Kal | 3/20/14 8:30 pm |
Re: Response: Now with 1x more *GIF* | Cody Miller | 3/20/14 8:47 pm |
Re: Response: Now with 1x more *GIF* | Grizzlei | 3/20/14 9:06 pm |
Input from the fly on the wall | SonofMacPhisto | 3/21/14 11:20 am |
Re: Input from the fly on the wall | The Loot | 3/22/14 7:46 pm |