CrazedSpartan:
If you read this... I just hope you're OK and you make it through this. Sometimes people feel guilty about ignoring other things something horrible happens-- you shouldn't feel bad about focusing on your family and your wife and yourself for a while, a long while even. We're all pulling for you. I wish I could say something better, maybe I could if I knew you better, but you don't need anything long and complicated to read right now anyway.